***Warning this is not a valentines post***
Some of you may realize that I am currently a college student. In fact I have been a college student for almost as long as I was a student prior to college. (In my defense I attend one class a semester, changed majors 3 times and took a year off to have our daughter) Did I mention I am finally graduating this May! I am excited to be done...for now. 
Well S and I have realized we need help. Professional, teach us what to do, help. So we are going back to school in away. We told Mouse today that we were going to see a teacher and take some classes on how to be better Moms and Dads. Her response brought tears to my eyes "Why? I think you guys are great Mom and Dad." I told her well we are not always great husbands and wives. And that we hope to learn something to make us better. Thus we are seeking out someone who can teach us or show us how to achieve some building blocks. We have no foundation any longer, we need those corner stones again. Christ has been my personal corner stone but not in my marriage. That is something else we will have to change.
Will this work? Will it restore our marriage? I am not sure. That uncertainty is scary. Laying out our weakness, faults and pain to another person is terrifying. The fact that we have half heartily tried this before and failed is also worrisome. (I don't like failing, I have never failed a class in my life, I can actually count the number C's I have received on one hand) Relationship wise though I seem to fail a lot. Counseling will do me good. I think this time I am coming at it from a better perspective than I did six years ago. So I am off to class again today for one of the most important lessons yet.
*All pictures are from online sources
Good luck and Happy Valentine's to you!
ReplyDeleteI really liked your honesty--for whatever reason it brought tears to my eyes--I think I'll do something sweet for my husband today:) Janae
ReplyDeleteRainman and I have been to counseling too. In was hard....really hard....but boy oh boy, it was worth it. You learn a lot about your relationship - but also A LOT about yourself. Invaluable. We were able to find a Christian counselor, so all 3 of us knew that divorce was not on the table and that God needed to be the center of us! Good luck and work hard!
ReplyDeleteGood for you! It is so sad that so many people just throw in the towel. They go from relationship to relationship, and the problem isn't usually the couple, it is more about individual struggles - like selfishness, not listening, lack of forgiveness etc. And we ALL have struggles like these!
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I took a marriage class together at a church college years ago. I'll never forget learning that I needed to change my thinking from thinking that in an arguement, one of us would win and one would loose... to, either we both win, or we both lose. win/ win, or lose/lose. We are a TEAM. We are in this together. And the best solution for a hurting relationship is to love that person as much as you love yourself, and just focus on BEING a righteous follower of Christ - for your spouce. BE THE SPOUCE YOU WANT TO HAVE. Read the scriptures together every night before going to bed, even if it is just for 10 minutes.
I'm sorry. I am passionate about families, and keeping them together. I love my husband. And we have had to work to keep things together. But I know I would never be happier with any other man. I hope you take to heart the things I said here (and that Im' not annoying you!) because I KNOW from experience that they will be a blessing to you if you do.
Hugs and blessings... :)
Corine :D